This is going to be a random collection of thoughts about Education. My series in my newsletter entitle “The Good Student” has, a bit like, Ruff Love, gotten some misinterpretations that I want to clear up.
I do not condone abusive teachers or instructors that tell people to do things “just because I am the professional.” Yes there are many instructors that step over the boundaries. I believe teaching is much like dog training. If that is true then if:
“Your dogs are a reflection of your ability to train.”
Then likewise I believe that
“Your students are a reflection of your ability to teach.”
Just as we should be learning from our dogs as we train them we as instructors should also be learning from our students. I will follow up my “Good Student” series with what I believe is a “Good Instructor” as well. It should be a journey. I know I for one am not the same teacher I was ten years ago and I hope in ten years time I will still be learning and finding new ways to help my students bring out the best in their dogs.
If you have an instructor whose style is to never build you up, to continue to tear you down and if they are happy to publicly ridicule you, then I would have to agree even a student with the thickest skin would not be able to tolerate it. Nor would I think you will find a way to do your absolute best in such an environment. Your mental game in particular would suffer massively under the constant tutelage of such a coach
However, my suggestion is that in order to grow you must allow yourself to fail, to open yourself to learning through the discovery of your limitations. I did not suggest anyone will grow under the tutelage of abusive. But I am suggesting if you get “your feelings hurt” it could be that you are misinterpreting a message or the delivery as abusive.
The truth is in my own teaching many students only hear the challenges I put forth and close their ears to any praise I give. Leaving my sessions thinking “she is too tough to learn from.” Be certain you are not miss judging your coach but also never be afraid to have a private conversation with such a coach and explain your thoughts and feelings before you walk away from the opportunities to learn.
First from yesterday’s blog a question came up; should you question your instructor’s philosophy? My answer is absolutely!
Today I am grateful that all of you are willing to sign your name to your own feelings on education.